KBCoole's Journal, 01 Mar 18

You aren't alone as you have the FS community backing you 100%! Try to think about the reasons why you want to lose weight particularly at the tjmes when temptation is all around you. You never know, maybe if you can stick to it and make a difference in your life, your wife might catch on and join you in a healthier lifestyle too! Good luck. 

I have a similar issue with my teenage daughter, who loves to eat and is slender as a twig. I cook for the both of us though and she's supportive of healthier meals, but I can't have any of the tasty snacks she eats in between :). It is hard when you are doing something and the rest of the family isn't interested. Don't give up. I agree that if you keep going and she starts to see a difference in your weight, health, and mood she may just want to try too!  

I would be like a baby elephant if I only had the butter my husband puts on his toast and the sugar he has in his tea so I know exactly how you feel. but do it for you and feel even prouder of your efforts because it's so much harder doing it unsupported. I also work in a care home and help serve the residents with delicious home cooked meals. Somewhere inside I just turn off; think of my results and how much better I feel and I know I'm doing right by me. good luck and stay strong 😊 

I find that if there are temptations in my way I cannot avoid or control (due to other people or circumstances), then I will barter with myself ahead of time. I will say o.k. if I eat a healthy snack before I go over and drink soda water with a lime (peeps think its vodka & tonic)... (It has nil calories) ... and don't eat any of the unhealthy snacks then... I treat myself ie buy a ticket for a band I want to see... get myself a new pair of jeans... a little reward which I will not allow myself to have if I misbehave. This self manipulation really helps me. And the treat doesn't have to be a big one... just once its non food or alcoholic and something you will really gain pleasure from... could be signing up for a class.. anything. But I find an activity based one is really great, because it will get you out doing something some time in the future which does not involve sitting around drinking lol Anyway thats my tuppence, don't let people around you get you down. Also bear in mind, some people who feel bad about their own situation may sabotage you. I found at Christmas my Mom and sister did this non stop, despite me saying I didn't want to drink, and wished to eat clean every single day they were trying to get me to break my resolve. It can be really frustrating and make you angry when they do this. I came away annoyed, and I did fall a couple of times. I think its not coming from a place of malice, just self shame that they are doing badly and they don't want to appear bad by you doing really well. I think its subconscious. Try and organise/plan activities together which do not require drinking and keep you busy out doing interesting things, that can change up the dynamic too. Also try and get buddies outside of your relationship that you can do activities one or two evenings a week like a hike or run or museum visit or something, another good way to avoid being exposed to drinking and the temptations that come with it. Best of luck that is the worst when someone close is not supporting your efforts, but work against it !