28 Aug 22 by member: Chestnut63
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glad to be right there with you in the never go back mindset club ! and I was just as bad about getting as much free food from work down my throat as possible!
28 Aug 22 by member: ObeseToBeast123
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@Otb: I know -- who actually PLANS to go into work on a Food Day event (instead of working from home or having a 3-day weekend)? A fat person does, that's who. I would consume a whole weekend's worth of calories before noon. The shame is overwhelming from that old mindset. 😞
28 Aug 22 by member: JustBananas
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I can relate. I felt like I was wearing a fat suit. I liked this Indian buffet for lunch because it was as much food as you could stuff in one container. Easily 3-4 pounds of food. I'd eat alone and feel so ashamed afterwards (but I'd do it again). No witnesses meant zero accountability. I'm so glad those days are behind me. I have a much better relationship with food now. Still a little nerotic, lol, but health focused. Congrats to ALL of us here on FS. it's a daily struggle 😘
28 Aug 22 by member: SD_3
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for awhile they would take us to a diner every other month for breakfast and my fat ass would order two meals.... pathetic 🙄
28 Aug 22 by member: ObeseToBeast123
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@Andrew: So difficult to imagine you as the fluffy guy. Happy that you've moved on from that job. Why were they serving all that crap to the nursing home residents, though? Trying for a high turnover?
28 Aug 22 by member: JustBananas
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@SuperD: Ahhh, the Indian buffet lunches. I remember those. They may not see us eat, but the waist size betrays us always. And a little neurosis is better than a lot of padding!
28 Aug 22 by member: JustBananas
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28 Aug 22 by member: -MorticiaAddams
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"Human Garbage Disposal " is a bit harsh. I'm reasonably sure no one thought that of you. Regardless, you've done great work and come a long way. My hat's off to ya 🎩
28 Aug 22 by member: writingwyo
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JB, I use to believe it was access to so much food at work but realized it was the work culture not the job but how I felt, unacceptable in pretentious workplace. It difficult to rise above toxic group think every day. So thankful for remote work. Much less stressed and much thinner despite being in easy reach of food. I hope you just smiled sweetly and said, "Thank you so much for noticing." ;)
28 Aug 22 by member: losingtowin1
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Congratulations! I also once had a job with lots of leftover donuts and pastries from meetings 2-3 days a week. It was hard for thrifty me to resist just gorging on them, because they would be tossed out anyway! Also office workers always seem to bring sugary treats.
28 Aug 22 by member: Celery9494
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@Otb and Celery: with 300 employees, there were always brunch & lunch meeting leftovers in the breakroom, everyday. I was literally a daily garbage disposal. There were only donuts/bagels and cream cheese for the entire company once a month, thank goodness, or else I would have blown up to 200+lbs. The candy and cookies happened during the Thanksgiving & Xmas season, gifted by vendors. You never had to pack a lunch at that office. @Morticia: I think it's more of an escape story than a success one. @Wyo: I don't know what people said about my eating habits, but I was certainly ashamed of my lack of control compared to all my thin co-workers. @Losing: the work culture was stressful, but not in any way with regards to food. I own that issue. I do agree that working remotely and getting me away from the graze-all-day habit was key to turning things around.
29 Aug 22 by member: JustBananas
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I sensed the shame, which pained me. 💔 I don't like it when people feel that way about themselves, but if it provided motivation to change, it turned out to be positive in the long run. One of my motivations for my initial loss from 180 to 150 was when 2 trim high school friends visited me. I felt like a lurking hulk next to them, and I had trouble keeping up with them physically. I know they didn't think less of me, but I was embarrassed. I'm glad the change in environment was good for you. I've heard of studies that seem to indicate obesity is "contagious " -- if the people around you are obese, you're likely to gain weight. I think it's a case of unconsciously modeling normalized behavior. In the case of my friends, I saw how moderately they ate, and it was a contagion in the opposite direction. Too much of our societal food culture pushes unhealthy food, food, and more food everywhere -- and workplaces are often the worst offenders
29 Aug 22 by member: writingwyo
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I don't know that feeling shame about how you use to live is necessarily a bad thing. it can be an Incredible motivator to not fall back into that way of living.
29 Aug 22 by member: ObeseToBeast123
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@Wyo and Otb: at the time, shame of overeating did not stop me from raiding the break room, as it was too engrained of a habit to stop. The rest of my life I’ve been slender, so those 2 years at that job are just a chapter of my life that I will just learn from, since it can’t be erased (like bumping into an old co-worker).
29 Aug 22 by member: JustBananas
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it's so nice when people notice and say something makes you know your doing a great job keep it up yay
29 Aug 22 by member: Jamilosingit
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