Chestnut63's Journal, 25 Feb 22

I'm struggling too... Probably stressing too much about everything. Plus the current situation in Ukraine is really affecting me. Walking outside is such a great way to relax 

Kitty thank you for kindly commenting on my journal entry and Nadia I always look forward to your input 

First of all caring for, fighting for care for, and losing your Mum have all been immense things to cope with in such a short space of time. The worst thing you can do is think that you’re doing everything wrong! You are getting through as best you can. Sometimes you need a drink, but sometimes you buy bananas! Thats good! And walking to the shops is good! Just try and do ONE THING each day. Have smaller goals while life is hard. And if you sit with the cat on your lap for three hours, well, she needs it!! It does you no good to find fault with yourself! Be kind to yourself - it makes you feel better, and when you feel a bit better you willfind things falling into place. 

Try thank you , you are a true lady 

Yes, I’m really struggling. I keep falling off the wagon and hard. I’m hoping this time I have my head in the game as I now have something to look forward to that I haven’t had for a long time. The weather and everything else going on in the world near and far isn’t helping either. I’ve started doing a few challenges and going to do a couple for charity to help my body and mind. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon x 

Hi Chestnut, a reactive depression to grief is very common. It will take time to find your new rhythm and come to terms with all that has happened in the past year. There will be good days and some really awful ones. Give yourself grace and time. Treat yourself with the same kindness you show everyone on FS. And try not to feel too bad about the stuff you’re not able to do. Some days, getting out of bed and getting dressed is a win. On other days even that will be too much. All of these feelings are normal! 

Chestnut …. Really feel for you …. People deal with loss differently some over eat to numb the pain others Drink etc …. And can relate when I lost my father had to keep it together & pretend everything was fine & couldn't shed a tear in front of my little sisters who thought dad went on a business trip it was more than 12y could handle so it was then it all began …. Only recently I’ve been able to talk about it and celebrate my dads life it was too painful to talk about Suma really said it well it’s all part of the Grieving process …. Am here if you need to talk Take care of yourself xxx♥️♥️♥️ 

Nadia you are very sweet ,. 

My Darling Chestnut, yes winter makes you do all the wrong things First Christmas then New year then Valentines day then Easter so there are no weeks with out eating too much also pancake days. So no wonder our weight is whizzing up, also cold weather and rain etc makes one comfort eat. None of this helps I haven't counted Birthday etc. Nevermind my weight is up too. But must lose by May. I can hardly get my lovely clothes on 😬, so need to change my eating habit soon, no NOW. Good luck Merry Mel 💗.  

Know that the struggle is real for everyone, Kind Sir, including u. We all continue along our paths until we get to a point of realization to make the necessary changes, that takes self-love & time. Be kind to urself, dear Chestnut, allow time for adjustment, grief, n self care😘❣🤙🏽 

Try to move away from all or nothing thinking “everything wrong” is really an all or nothing statement, demotivating for you and I can clearly see not true….you are on this forum talking about how you feel….that is definitely something right! A journey starts with but a single step, if you can do 1 step you can do as many as you want to! Believe I. Yourself and if you do stumble that’s ok….just get back up, accept you have stumbled then carry on your journey! Remember you are doing things right….and maybe some things wrong…..but……you are doing some things right! 

Hey Chestnut, Yeah. It’s tough to maintain a healthy lifestyle right now. You’re not alone there. Thinking of you, dude. 

I thank all you wonderful people for your support, thank you so much🤝🙏 

I know you’ve been going through a lot lately. Don’t forget to do some self care and put your mental health first. You got friends who care for you and support you. I am One of those who care about you and am here to listen if you need to talk. Lots of love. 😘❤️ 

Chestnut, if you need someone to listen then there is always Cruse, a wonderful charity for the bereaved and donations are voluntary for their time. They will talk on the phone or come to you, if you call their helpline, then they will give you the number for your local branch, or you can call the helpline as often as you like and speak to the volunteer there. 

Thanks Chestnut63, I am so daft still I know now so no more over eating. How are you? Merry Mel 🤩  

I feel how u feel chestnut I lost my mum 3 years ago and some days it feels like yesterday, I no its never going to be the same again and the 1st time u do things with out them is the hardest I saw a shop we used to go to and broke my heart but now I can go in it, sending u a hug and strength to build up to be the best u xx