just from my point of view a lawyer keeps you from being pushed around. just had that experience. sometimes we want to be peacemakers and not hurt others but we end up getting walked on. I'm about $12k deep in attorneys currently but it's been worth it. God has provided all I need. and I now have joint custody. as far as weight loss goes slow is better than stalled. so keep your chin up. easy for me to say. but be encouraged friend.
06 Sep 20 by member: one.point.O
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Thank you, 1.O, for the words of advice and encouragement. I'm weighing the pros & cons with great seriousness, since 15 minutes in front of a Judge - well, anything could happen. Precious time.
06 Sep 20 by member: JustBananas
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I didn't mean it as advice. Just my thoughts. My attorney pointed out that she's probably been pushing me around for years and I just go with it. It's a totally different situation for me. It's the woman I love so I don't want to cause trouble. But the kids are top priority now. Sorry if I overstepped.
06 Sep 20 by member: one.point.O
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You did the opposite of overstepping. All ideas and thoughts on the subject are valued. I've been pushed around for about a year and a half with this co-worker, so it's hardly different. It all just needs to stop. I was trying to to be professional and let the HR department handle things (with very little results), but once the stalking started, my job and health have become top priorities.
06 Sep 20 by member: JustBananas
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Get a lawyer and sue your company they are the ones that are supposed to be protecting you AT WORK! Also they(Lawyers) know that's where the money is at. You can get one on a contingency, which means they get paid only if you get paid. Hang in there on your weight loss you didnt put it on in a week so dont expect it to come off in a week. If you have a bad day try to forgive and forget it. The only way to fail at this is to give up. Losing 1 pound a month is better than gaining 1 pound a month. This is a LIFE commitment. Dont ever lose sight of that.
06 Sep 20 by member: Carolyn Ray
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Hi Carolyn, the stalking started at the office, but it has now extended to my home (which HR is saying they can't do anything about, and were the ones who told me to request the courts for a restraining order). But I get it -- why doesn't my firm fire her? I suspect they're waiting for a permanent restraining order to be issued, so that my firm will be bullet-proof if she tries to sue them for unlawful termination.
06 Sep 20 by member: JustBananas
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I have the uneven fat loss issue of which you speak. Exasperating is a good word for it. Good luck in court!
06 Sep 20 by member: TomLong
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stalking at home hell no if i told them and they didn't comply they would comply by feet per second
06 Sep 20 by member: mountainman2
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I totally get your sentiment, MM2. But I think that reaction is what my co-worker wants from me, but only so she could go whimpering to everyone and look like SHE'S the victim. See how twisted that becomes? Sadly, I just have to trust the court to make this right. My safety in the hands of a total stranger. Stress!! Thank goodness I don't have any sweets in the house beyond fruit.
06 Sep 20 by member: JustBananas
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Coming to my house with stalking no way they wont be able to go back and cry to the other co workers
06 Sep 20 by member: mountainman2
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06 Sep 20 by member: jcmama777
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Peace and Love to you, too, Mama. I'm watching a stand-up comedy routine by Larry the Cable Guy and am laughing with popcorn for dinner instead of meditating. Medicine, either way. @MM2: well, yeah. Yeah. There's that line that we can't cross, and I suspect my co-worker has experience with dancing on that line to provoke people. It takes restraint to do handle things the right way, no matter how bad things get. And yes, I have called the cops, who warned her that the next time it will be jail for her. But I do appreciate your support in my frustration.
06 Sep 20 by member: JustBananas
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So sorry to hear about all of your issues. If you are like me, emotional eating is a real problem. I went on vacation then got home in time for Hurricane Laura bound to strike our area of Texas. It was beyond stressful and the eating took over!
Stay strong, try to do the best you can with your eating, but getting through something stressful like this is very hard. I totally understand. You can do this!! I would lawyer up if you want this to stop, just my unbiased opinion.
06 Sep 20 by member: Valentina1963
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So sorry for your troubles, but good job showing a loss. Hope all gets resolved soon. 🌈
19 Sep 20 by member: shirfleur 1
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Lawyer definitely! Not only will they act as a 'buffer' between you and the stalker, but they know the ins and outs and what CAN be done, what's relevant, etc...Infuriating that it costs YOU money to deal with this BUT worth it in the long run.
19 Sep 20 by member: Rckc
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I think a lawyer would help in the long run. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I pray everything works out for you. That must be very unsettling to have a stalker. Their are a lot of caring people on here. I hope you get the help that you need. Take care.
19 Sep 20 by member: Roxy Marie
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