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This post is me depressed and venting....
A guy I was attracted to (way out of my league but gave me the time of day and came over swimming 'n' stuff) just text me to tell me he's getting back with his ex and they're getting married.
I burst in to tears and trying to hide it at work...right now I have about 6 guys I "talk" to but all the ones that have jobs and are attractive just hit me back up when convenient but not really interested.
The men that are currently interested in me tend to be socially awkward, no jobs, unattractive, etc...
I'm a pretty girl! I have a pretty face, own my house, have a good job, have a good sense of humor and good heart...
I'm guessing this 100lbs+ of extra weight is what makes me out of the desirable guys' league. It hurts SO much!!! I wish I could stay focused and lose this weight and see for myself if my life changes :(...today it's so clear but I wish I could be this motivated and have everything be so clear like this every day...
I want someone I'm attracted to physically and mentally...being a fat girl you'd be surprised how often I hear "maybe you're standards are too high". All I want is to be attracted to them mentally and physically and for them to have a job...and apparently people think that's asking too much!!!! They don't have to be a model by any means...the spark just has to be there :(.
Ok...I'm done....I hope some day I can finally lose this weight and be able to have someone of quality and have people think I deserve quality :'(
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You nearly quoted the words of my life as composed in my college term paper. I would really like to be buddies with you, please read my profile and contact me if you want.
05 Jul 17 by member: Steviefan1
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character building is the essence of serious relationship. if those handsome dudes left u for sexy girls, they are after appearance, appearance linked to lust. Thank God shield u from being approached to be trap into their sexual tools.
05 Jul 17 by member: pinkdolphinee
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It's not the weight...losing weight will not change how you are perceived. It's the energy you give off thats they are picking up on. Focus on improving your self esteem and also looking for people that are emotionally available
05 Jul 17 by member: morchi1608
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Sharon...you *do* deserve quality at any and every size. It wasn't the 100 pounds I lost that changed my life, but the 20 I gained back to break my weight obsession.
05 Jul 17 by member: Sarg0n
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You need someone who is interested in YOU, now. Like you said you have a lot to offer, the right one will come along and love you for you. Love yourself first.
05 Jul 17 by member: Mistybenner
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You are not going to like to hear this. But until you love you, no one else will either. Fat or thin really doesn't make that much difference to many men, (sure there are some size obsessed morons out there who are brainwashed by the media!) but what IS attractive to many men, and people in general is CONFIDENCE. Knowing deep inside that you are worthy and beautiful and full of life and joy. If you can embrace THAT and love yourself as you teach yourself a healthier way of eating you should have it nailed. Strangely enough, the times in my life I haven't wanted relationships and have been happy with myself are when they seemed to be jumping out at me. 🤷🏻♀️ So hang in there. Love you for you! And be happy doing stuff for you. Make your life a full one! 💁🏻No time to deal with deadbeats! LOL
06 Jul 17 by member: smprowett
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Sharon, I am a SoCal gal, and I understand where you are at. I used to weigh 214 and no guy would give me a second glance when there were so many size 2 women to choose from, you practically trip over them here. And they also have their own place, great jobs, and are beautiful. California is not the place to be if you enjoy being obese. If, however, you don't like the way your body looks, and if your health is suffering because of the excess fat, then now is the time to commit to fit & trim. She is there inside of you, dying to get out! I promise you that you will become even more gorgeous with every pound you drop, and someday you'll post before/after pics that will make you shake your head in wonderment.
06 Jul 17 by member: soonsoonsoon
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Sharon, The book called "Four Agreements" is one of the best books you can read that helped me. I was single for 10+ years until I found somebody. Fairly simple principles:
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best. ”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
Good luck on the healthy journey body and mind...they are connected!
06 Jul 17 by member: rmacle
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Thank you so much everybody - lot of great responses that made me feel motivated :) <3
10 Jul 17 by member: Sharons Victory
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Sharon, looking at your photograph you are a gorgeous looking lady. Men are so fickle, it's not just about size or looks but personality and heart. I once went out with a lad who could have been a model he was so good looking and fit, couldn't understand how he had chosen me. Unfortunately he was the biggest cad I've ever met, ending up sleeping with my so called best friend when we were engaged to be married. I eventually married a man who is pretty average looking, but has the most amazing heart and makes me laugh all the time.
Now I look back and I'm thankful he treated me that way, because I think I'd have been miserable married to him
Don't change your standards for the sake of others - only change yourself to please yourself, then you will be the person you want to be and the person they want to be with.
God bless and good luck on life's journey
12 Jul 17 by member: Saxy Lady
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