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It’s been a while now and I’m starting to have strong feelings that my boyfriend is seriously trying to sabotage my Diet and my healthy eating. Even though I do not give to him all the faults (since I’m weak when comes to chocolate and sweets), he keeps on asking me all the times if I want an ice-cream, a chocolate bar, a cake, and so on. The other day we were at the gas station and he went inside to pay, he came back with 2 chocolate bars! I told him many times that I don’t want to eat junk food, but he keeps on asking me if I want this or that, it’s exhausting and I feel that even if I try to tell him, he might not understand. I think he feels bad because he has not willpower to stay on a diet and he loves food (who doesn’t really), so seeing me determined could be like a wake-up call for him? I don’t know what to do….I told him many times that I want to eat raw and he keeps on asking me to go eat Mexican food or brunch places where the main courses are chicken waffle and pancakes! How can I make him to stop?
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Maybe you need to sit down and have a serious talk about it? He may mean well, but if it causes so much more stress for you, he needs to realize it and at least try to stop if he truly cares about you. With the chocolate bars, maybe he feels it would be selfish for him to buy only one and then eat it next to you without having another just in case you decide to splurge. Think about it! I suppose it can go both ways in that case on which is more or less considerate (getting one for you in case or not getting you one so you're not tempted). Maybe he just needs some encouragement and support to eat healthier too? If he were eating better, maybe he wouldn't be offering you junk food since he would want to stay away from it as well? It's hard to say on that too, though. Not everyone wants to eat raw, so he could be having a hard time trying to find variety for himself in the places you'd prefer to eat? I don't know, it can be really hard to try to offer advice on something you don't know the whole picture on, but just some thoughts.
04 Jul 17 by member: Meadow Mist
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Thanks Meadow Mist for you support!
My boyfriend actually does not eat sweets, he likes popcorn chips, more salty stuff so if he buys a chocolate bar is just for me. I don't want to force him to eat anything, so it's fine for me going to any place where I can find a choice on the menu, wherever it is. Dieting is already very hard, if I have someone that constantly asks me if I want an ice-cream or chocolate, it's even harder. I know he means well, but I'm having hard time to let him understand that it would be even better avoiding to buy junk food...
05 Jul 17 by member: PizzaLover88
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Great advice M.M. And PizzaLover88 I know you can make him understand it just takes time and patience. Men like to do things that make us happy. Perhaps instead tell him to buy you flowers or iced healthy beverage like unsweetened iced green tea.
05 Jul 17 by member: Jones Jennifer
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Or maybe a cute stuffed animal, if you like those? ;)
05 Jul 17 by member: Meadow Mist
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Hon, he knows. No amount of explaining nor bargaining can change what's underneath this pattern of action against you.
I can relate a bit to the insecurity he might be feeling (my partner has lost a LOT of weight since we met), but that's no reason to sabotage your health.
Sending you good wishes for strength and clear perception, and the courage to trust your perception. <3
12 Jul 17 by member: T8U9
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