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One of the things I've always admired about Jack is his superhuman ability to say "No", to anyone for any reason, and not feel the slightest bit guilty about it. You know those guys who push Direct TV at Sam's Club and Costco? I've taken to telling them I already I have it just so I don't have to listen to them try to convince me why I should sign up. Jack? Oh, hell no. As soon as they look at him, he gives them a smile and a friendly wave, but his voice drops another octave (like he's scolding the dog, lol) and out comes a firm "No". And anyone who continues after him just gets ignored.
I am so jealous of that. As a woman, I often feel like I have to be nice when I say "No", and either give a long winded explanation as a way of apologizing, or more often, just say "OK" to something I don't really want to do as a way to keep the peace. It's not something I have a problem with with people I know well (like my kids, much to their dismay), but with strangers, acquaintances and coworkers, I've always wanted to err on the side of being polite, which most people seem to take as an invitation to persuade me.
But dieting and losing weight has made me get really good at saying, "No". It started out just declining the offer of food, but after getting all that practice forcefully shutting down my office's resident food pusher, I found myself naturally starting to say it to other things. And I've learned that I don't need to explain myself, either. I don't need to give a long explanation as a way of saying "sorry" to someone for declining their generosity, and likewise, I don't need to give *any* explanation to someone looking to manipulate or otherwise take advantage of me.
It's actually been pretty hilarious at times. I've had several moments like in the movie Bad Moms, where people are so used to the typical female social dynamic that they don't know how to react when I don't play along.
I'm nowhere near Jack's level yet, but the benefits are already showing themselves, particularly in being able to say "Yes" to more things that I really do want to do. Life is still crazy busy. It's just no longer in an "OMG, I'm so stressed I can't handle it" kind of way, but in an "I'm so lucky my life is full and blessed" kind of way.
How's that for a NSV?
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94.7 kg
Lost so far: 16.0 kg.
Still to go: 28.9 kg.
Diet followed: Reasonably Well.
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262 kcal
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Fat: 4.50g | Prot: 25.50g | Carbs: 33.00g.
Breakfast: Giant Eagle White Nectarines. Lunch: Herbalife Protein Drink Mix - Vanilla, Herbalife Nutritional Shake Mix - Dutch Chocolate. more...
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Losing 3.5 kg a Week
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